They probably didn't know
Feb 12 '00
THIS IS NOT REALLY A DISAGREEMENT AT ALL.
Just an addition.
I totally agree that your husband should be aware of his medical history. As we discover more and more about genetic links to disease, this knowledge will become even more important.
But I doubt very much whether his adoptive parents knew anything beyond the basic facts about his birth parents. Because you mentioned grandchildren, I am guessing that your husband was adopted at least 45 or 50 years ago. At that time, prospective adoptive parents were told little or nothing about the birth father (if his identity was even known) and little more than the age, education level and basic physical characteristics of the birth mother.
Even if the adoptive parents had wanted to know more as time went on, they would not have been able to. A solid wall was erected between the two sets of parents.
Adoptive parents were encouraged to tell their children that the birth parents had been killed in a car accident. The basic idea was that for a new family would be formed, for the graft to take, the past had to be erased. Many, probably most, adoptive parents went along with this advice.
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