For Better For Worse???????
May 20 '00
After just reading a review written by WRITER50 I decided to write my own.
To an extent I agree and then I have many opposing thoughts that I want to share with you.
Yes marriage is supposed to be "until death us do part" if the marriage was ordained by God. You may say all marriages are ordained by God but not so. God has his PERFECT WILL and his PERMISSIVE WILL. Sometimes he will let us have our way to teach us something. Just because you met, fell in love and got married does not mean it was Gods PERFECT WILL for you to marry that person. I do however believe that each person that comes into our lives is sent for a reason.
Some think the only PERMITTED way to divorce is infidelity which of course the Bible clearly states this but it also tells us that God wants us to be happy and if the marriage is unhappy there is no reason to stay in it.
Yes if a marriage starts to sour by all means communicate with your spouse, even seek counseling to work it out but some times it is just not possible.
Sometimes people marry at a very young age and as both people mature they grow in different directions. That is no one's fault. It just happens.
Other times a spouse can become abusive now should you stay with that spouse"till death do ye part"if it means your own death? NO!!! That is not Gods will.
There are many factors involved in a divorce and what is right for one may not be right for another. You have to decide that for yourself.
The Bible does state that if a man is unhappy with his wife he should have her leave and since we are all equal in Gods eyes the same goes for a woman. We don't have to spend a life time being unhappy.
People do not always marry for love either. There are many reasons and I do think it should be for love but sometimes their are circumstances that make one marry without love, such as a pregnancy, an abusive situation at home and the list goes on.
I do feel a person should think long and hard before a divorce. I personally came from an abusive background and married to get out of the situation only to get in a worse one in my marriage and I tried everything to make it work but sometimes it just isn't possible.
My intent is not to upset anyone with this article but to merely point out you sometimes have to "walk a mile in my shoes" to see where some one else is coming from. I am not pro divorce. For years I stayed because I was brought up believing "you made your bed lie in it" and that keep going through my head. Well after years of abuse I decided to leave that bed unmade and get out while I still could.
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