What Will It Do To My Kids???
Dec 21 '00
Divorce is an ugly word that is very much a popular word now days.It seems like every time I turn around someone is getting a divorce.I've seen women running from there ex-husbands with there children scared of what the ex-husband will do to her.I see the pain and hurt on the kids face and wonder why it has to be that way.
I think if marriages can't work then why not let by-gones be by-gones instead of hurting one another and especially your kids.When your going through a divorce sometimes you don't think about what is going on inside your kids head,because your hurt or to wrapped up about what's going on.
I have been there before myself or at least seperation.I filed for divorce two times but never did go through with it.I wanted our marriage to work for us and the sake of our kids.I seen what it was doing to my kids, they didn't know if they were coming or going most of the time.They knew we loved each other but just couldn't get along.
So, we went and got help with our situation and so far it has worked out.We still have our problems, but there ain't no one that doesn't.One thing I learned is not to be resentful towards one another especially in front of your kids.It really scares them and then they don't know who to trust anymore.
I have done some research on divorces and found some useful information that I would like to share with other people concerning divorce.
They say putting your children through a lot of stress can create problems for your children.The more stressful experiences that children that your children encounter during a divorce the more difficulty they will have with every day life.
The ways that parents have in dealing with there children have a profound influence on there child's well-being.The evidence indicates that many parents diminish parenting practices immediately following divorce which appears to contribute to some of the problems that children experience.
Conflict between parents prior to,during and after the divorce contributes to lower well being.Children from divorced families may,on the average, experience more difficulties than children in intact families.They say, that the loss of parents,economic difficulties,stress,parental adjustment and competence, and interparental conflict all contribute at least some degree to the difficulties of children.
Hope this can help someone who is going through divorce or are thinking about divorce.If there's anyway possible to make your marriage work, do it for the sake of yourselves and your children.If not try to do it in a respectable way and without damaging your children.
One last thing, being married is a wonderful thing if only you are happy with the marriage. But also being married is very hard!
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